La secular ceremony requires a lot of preparation in advance (this represents 30 to 40 hours of work!) and a great involvement of the couple in its organization. The notion of commitment and sharing is very important.
You’re wondering where to start organizing your secular ceremony ? Right this way!
This type of ceremony is chosen by non-believing couples, future brides of different faiths, divorced people who cannot marry in church, or those who want more than just a visit to the mayor’s office and who wish to personalize their personalization. ceremony. The secular ceremony tells a story, YOUR story, the story of your love. You don’t have to fall into the clichés of a sweet pink love story that’s a little too stupid for your taste, and that’s also what’s nice! Because yes, the secular ceremony is what you want to do with it, it is perfectly in your image!
1. Define a budget to organize your secular ceremony
As with all of the expense items in your marriage, determine the budget you can spend on your wedding. secular ceremony. On average, it takes between 600 and 1100 €, depending on what is included or not in the service of the officiant:
- time spent preparing and number of appointments,
- the level of personalization of the ceremony: is the text written entirely for you or is it identical for each wedding?
- Does the officiant also organize the ceremony?
- Is the equipment (sound system, microphones, lectern, etc.) available?
- la décoration de la cérémonie est-elle prévue ?
2. Determine the number of guests at your secular ceremony
La secular ceremony is THE highlight of your wedding! You will live moments full of emotion, you share your intimacy and history with your guests. It’s also an opportunity to share anecdotes and have a good time:)
Ask yourself who you want to have at your side during your secular ceremony all your guests? only the people who matter most to you?
Once you have answered this question, you have an idea of how many people it represents. This is important for the future 😉
The more guests there are, the higher the cost will be because you will need more chairs, more ceremony booklets, more decorations…
3. Choose a place adapted for your secular ceremony
Think about where your event will take place. secular ceremony as soon as you search the reception area. You need to provide enough space to accommodate all your guests (count 1 m²/seated person).
Lay ceremony inside or outside?
Aahaahhh! THE big question!! The outdoor secular ceremony makes you dream and that’s normal! The fresh air, the greenery, the light breeze in your hair, the little birds singing… Happiness! Except that, even though you may have taken the “sunny option” when you booked the place;) there is no guarantee that the weather will be fine and that there will be no rain in your day! Unless the theme of the wedding is “Singing In The Rain”, always include a plan B from the start in case. The ideal is to have a room in which to fold up at the reception area, otherwise a tent or barnum – nice preferably! (check that the place of reception allows such an installation and an-ti-ci-pez, it is not two hours before the date of reception. ceremony you’ll decide to set up your tent!).
If you choose to organize your secular ceremony outside, think also about the logistics: the transport of the equipment (chairs, sound system, decoration…) to the ceremony site, the electrical connection… And yes, there is a lot of work to do. secular ceremonyit’s getting ready!!
4. Choose your secular ceremonial official
A single motto with the secular ceremony : FREEDOM! But freedom does not mean doing anything! The choice of the officiant is very important, do not do it lightly at the risk of regretting it. He must be able to set the pace for your secular ceremony and to make the link between the different interventions. It’s intimidating, and there is a lot of pressure on the officiant’s shoulders.
You can entrust this heavy task (but how wonderful!) to one or more of your loved ones or call on a professional. The person (s) you choose must meet the following criteria: be perfectly comfortable speaking and able to express yourself in public, have time to devote to the organization of the ceremony, have the same vision of things as you, be attentive to your needs, respect your desires and meet your expectations. A hell of a mission that’s out of the reach of anyone who comes in here. In any case, you must absolutely choose someone with whom you feel good and with whom you feel perfectly well.
The professional officiant is used to organize this type of ceremony and will be able to guide and advise you at each stage.
When one of your loved ones officiates the ceremony, the emotional and sentimental dimension is necessarily different!
My advice: nothing prevents you from entrusting the organisation of your secular ceremony to a professional official and asking some of your relatives to intervene during the ceremony. These interventions will be managed by the professional officiant who will integrate them harmoniously into the ceremony to avoid false steps and misunderstandings.
5. Choose the ideal time to organize your secular ceremony
The advantage of organizing an secular ceremony is that nothing is imposed and you can decide everything. Take advantage of it! Allow an average of 30-45 minutes for the ceremony (more attention span decreases).
Time of the day secular ceremony will depend on where it takes place – always keep your planning for the day in mind! (on the site of the Wine of Honour? dinner? elsewhere?) and guests invited to the event. ceremony (all or only part).
Also consider the light: where will it come from at the time of the ceremony? No one should have sunshine in their eyes and shadows on their faces should be avoided. This is important for photos:)
It is quite possible to organize the dry ceremony at the end of the day to enjoy a beautiful natural light or at night with garlands and candles for a very romantic effect!
6. Create the scenography of your secular ceremony
A secular ceremony is a ceremony where everyone sees each other: the bride and groom face their guests, nobody turns their back. Provide enough chairs for everyone to sit down. Place them so that no one is embarrassed by the sun (no sun in the eyes, shaded area).
Think also about the pictures: what will we see behind the bride and groom? behind the officiant? Some places are naturally beautiful and do not need artifices. Use what is on the spot (a tree, a water point, a statue…), highlight the place and play symmetry. Highlight the lane through which you will make your entrance and the place where you will then place yourself (with flower petals for example).
For the interventions and music, don’t forget to provide a sound system and wireless microphones so that nobody misses a crumb of this secular ceremony 😉 You can make arrangements with the DJ who may be able to make his own available to you. Also ask yourself where to install it so that it can be seen as little as possible and does not spoil your photos…
7. Build your secular ceremony
Wishes, lyrics, music, rituals… You will tell yourself what you feel for each other and tell your story. Ask yourself what do you want for your secular ceremony. It’s an à la carte ceremony, build your ceremony in this spirit, make it look like you so you don’t regret it;)
Choose texts that speak to you and in which you find yourself. If you have religious convictions, you can choose religious texts or songs.
Music is used to highlight the highlights of the secular ceremony that often happens that way:
- guest installation
- the arrival of the procession
- the word of introduction (by the bride and groom or officiant)
- interventions of the official (s)/your loved ones, rituals, music
- the bride and groom’s vows
- kiss him 😉
- the exit of the bride and groom.
You can involve your loved ones by asking them to read a text or contribute to the ritual (s) you have chosen. The ritual validates the commitment by a physical element and allows the rhythm of the ritual to be set. secular ceremony and give substance to your commitment. You don’t have to use rituals. If you choose to do so, choose simple rituals that can be understood by everyone (for example, the exchange of alliances is a ritual;).
You will have understood that, all of the secular ceremony is built around your couple, your love and your desires. It is a moment for you, based on exchange and sharing, which must be unique and in your image! Get ready to pull out the tissues!